Knowing the domestic violence warning signs can help you protect someone you love. For Domestic Violence Awareness Month this October, Ivan and Ashley use this Healthy Delaware segment on Good Morning Delaware, brought to you by the Behavioral Health Consortium, to talk about how to recognize abuse, how to support a loved one, and where to find help in Delaware.
If you are in immediate danger, call 911. If you are experiencing abuse, it is not your fault. You are not alone, and help is available.
Domestic Violence Is More Than Physical Abuse
Domestic violence is a serious issue that touches more families than many people realize, and it often happens behind closed doors. It can affect anyone, no matter their age, background or relationship. Abuse is not only physical. It can also be emotional and financial, including:
- Constant put-downs and criticism
- Controlling who you see or where you go
- Monitoring your phone
- Keeping you from your own money
- Threats to hurt you, your children or even your pets
Domestic Violence Warning Signs to Watch For
You may notice changes in a friend or family member before they ever say anything. Common domestic violence warning signs include when someone:
- Pulls away from friends and family
- Makes excuses for their partner’s behavior
- Seems afraid or anxious around their partner
- Has unexplained injuries
- Suddenly changes how they dress or act
How to Check In Without Judgment
If you are worried about someone, start simply. Tell them you have noticed a change, that you are concerned about their well-being, and that you are there for them without judgment. If they open up, believe them, and never blame them.
A simple, caring message can open the door. For example: “I’ve noticed you seem stressed lately, and I care about you. I’m here whenever you want to talk.” Then listen more than you speak, and let them share at their own pace.
Support a Loved One Without Pressuring Them to Leave
Leaving an abusive relationship is rarely as simple as it sounds, and it can be the most dangerous time for a person experiencing domestic violence. Avoid pressuring someone to leave before they are ready. Your patience and steady support can make all the difference. Trained advocates can help them create a safety plan when they are ready.
If You Are Experiencing Domestic Violence
Please hear this: what is happening is not your fault, and you do not deserve to be hurt. You are not alone. There are people in Delaware who care and are ready to help you build a safety plan that works for you, whenever you are ready to reach out.
Safety Tip: Use a Safer Device
If you think your phone or computer is being monitored, use a safer device to reach out for help, such as a trusted friend’s phone or a public computer.
Delaware Domestic Violence Hotlines
These hotlines are free, confidential and ready to listen 24 hours a day, 7 days a week:
- Immediate danger: Call 911
- New Castle County: 302-762-6110
- Kent & Sussex Counties: 302-422-8058
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
Find more Delaware resources, including bilingual and TTY lines, from the Delaware Domestic Violence Coordinating Council.
Healing and Emotional Support
If you or a loved one needs emotional support after abuse, the Behavioral Health Consortium can point you toward counseling and healing resources.
Delaware families, let’s make sure every home in our state is a safe one, and let’s keep checking in on each other. Watch the full Healthy Delaware segment above, and find more community resources and Good Morning Delaware conversations on DETV.
